Team, found a solution. This isn’t ideal, but it works.
The first post noted that their guest network is using the VPN even when this is checked, I think that’s since been fixed. I activated the guest network and I’ll have my steaming device use that - and set the vpn settings to exclude the guest network. I set the guest network to run off of the 2.4ghz band and I have my primary network off of the 5ghz band which might help too, I’m not sure. But I can confirm the 5ghz (non guest) network is working with the vpn, and the 2.4ghz is not. I enabled “use for all processes” and also selected “only allow the following to use the vpn” and left it blank - since if you said “do not use vpn for the following” and it’s blank, it defaults to “all devices” which means no vpn was being used for either network. It’s almost a double negative, haha.
Hope that helps someone.